On
the face of it, bubbly Oghosa Ovienrioba is a 22-year-old with a bright
future ahead of her. A pretty and intelligent Law Graduate, Oghosa is
also a popular vlogger to boot. But Oghosa used to hide a dark secret:
she was addicted to online pornography.
It
was an addiction that first kicked in when she was just 14 years old and
sneaked a look at online porn on her computer. And from the ages of 18
to 21, she would lock herself in a dark room & watch adult movies
endlessly.
At
her worst point, Oghosa would masturbate between five and six times a
day - and watched a total of over 400 hours of adult material
But
now Oghosa has become a hero to other sufferers after bravely speaking
out about her porn addiction on YouTube - in a series that has amassed
over 800,000 hits.
Oghosa
says, 'When I uploaded that video in February, I had no idea how
phenomenal the response would be. I received hundred of heartwarming
comments from women who were going through the same thing for years.
Lots
of people don’t think girls can suffer a porn addiction but it’s a
problem for both sexes. I hope I can help others out there - talking
about your problem is the first step.'
She continued: 'I didn't see people as people anymore - they were just sex objects to me.
'The
simplest things could set me off such as a girl unbuttoning her blouse
or a boy taking his top off. Everything made me want more.
'I would sit in my room alone for hours, with the lights off, watching porn. I felt lonely and ashamed of myself.'
When
Oghosa turned 21, she found Christianity and knew it was time to
confront her problem. She made several lifestyle changes so she would
not return to old habits again.
She says: 'I spoke to a friend about my addiction and that was a huge release for me. It was a first step.
'Talking about it made me realise how much of a problem it was - you're only as sick as the secrets you keep.
'As a Christian, you have to be quite controlled about what you let into your heart, in terms of what you see and do.'
She continued: 'So now, I don’t read sex scenes in books and I don’t listen to oversexualised music.
'There
are some artists that just sing about sex and it’s best to avoid that, I
also try to avoid inappropriate programmes on TV late at night.'
As
part of her recovery process, she posted a YouTube video in February
2014 in which she revealed her porn addiction to the world. The response
from viewers was overwhelmingly positive.
She
explains: 'When I read some of the comments on that video, it brings a
tear to my eye. People have told me how alone they felt with their
addiction until they saw my video.'
Oghosa believes that there should be age restrictions on online pornography to make it less available to children.
'It’s
heartbreaking to know that children can still access pornography so
easily like I did. There are age restrictions on drinking and smoking -
the same should go for porn.'
A
spokeperson for The Marylebone Centre of Psychological Therapies said:
'The internet is having a huge impact on human sexuality as an infinite
variety of material is available through picture sites, chat rooms, live
shows, bulletin boards and web-cams.
'Internet
sexual addiction is a form of sexual addiction and it is important to
have someone to talk to about your feelings in general.'
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